Fearless Files: Let's go on an adventure! Yes, you!

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Part of being fearless is having the courage to not give up while struggling through something. To me, giving up is the same as taking the cowardly way out because you're scared of what's to come and if you fail. But honestly, you won't know the outcome of your struggle until you try.

One of the best things my dad ever told me was that “it’s okay to fail.” Failing to him was not a negative thing at all. At least, you tried and did not quit. He believed that you're already a winner, as long as you tried your best and didn't give up. He always told me that too many people view a failure as a negative thing when actually, it's a blessing because it allows you to learn a lesson that you might not have learned had you done everything right. How you choose to look at things is such an important factor when you're struggling and trying to emerge victorious from that struggle. A victory may not always be what we envision it to be. What I have learned in my life is that the true victory is seeing something through and not giving up. And that is just another part of the adventures in your life.  I have learned that I can't control the outcome at the end but I can control if I want to keep going towards my goal despite the hardships that come along with it. I can also control how I want to keep going and what to do next. We always have a choice.

If you fail and try again and again, I promise you that you will win more than you fail. It's like when you first learn to play chess and play against a better opponent, who knows the game perfectly. You will lose at first but as you lose, you learn. You learn what mistakes you have made and as you keep trying, you become stronger and wiser to the game until you win. You win because you make better choices based on what you have learned from your previous losses.

I'm going through this phase in my life now where I am more self-aware and more bolder in the choices I am making in my life. I am tuning out the voices from outside and listening to my mind, heart and gut. There are a few goals I have for myself that people are telling me are impossible. But I refuse to let that stop me from doing what I want to do in life. As long as I am not hurting anyone or doing anything illegal, I'm good. I truly believe nothing is impossible in this life, if you want it badly enough. Nothing great is ever easily acquired. You have to believe you are strong enough to get through the hurdles within that struggle to get to that goal.

I have made the choice to be happy, even if it means making some others around me unhappy. Not everyone will understand my choices in life but if they are really in my corner, they will accept them and be happy for me. At the end of the day, YOU have to do what makes you happy. You are the owner of your life. And you get to chose how you live that life.

The main reason for this blog is for me to tell my story in hopes that I can inspire just one person in my lifetime to live a life full of fearless moments, lots of Snoopy dancing, laughing and that flutter you feel in the pit in your stomach when you do something adventurous. Because that is what I strive for on a daily basis and I think that's what we all should strive for on a daily basis. Life is short. Adventures and fearless moments are subjective. Your adventure or moment is not the same as mine. What counts is that it makes you happy. Everyone should strive to do things in their lives that make them happy. No apologies needed.

Audrey really knew what she was talking about. :)

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