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1. Stay true to who you are and don’t worry about pleasing other people. Someone will always have something to say no matter what. Who cares? As long as you love yourself and do what makes you happy (and not hurting anyone), it’s all good. I embrace my love for Audrey Hepburn, Payless shoes, thrift store shopping, purple hair streaks, polka dots and Doc Martens. (This is dedicated to Donna A.)
2. Make a decision and stick by it. (Thanks Lorraine)
3. Don’t rush into a relationship…get to know a person before you commit to them. (Thanks Mr. 10 kids!) That goes for friendships too! Sometimes someone can seem really cool but turn out to be a “single white female” case. SMH. Be careful of who you let into your inner circle. There are only so many chairs at the roundtable.
4. Stop holding others to the same high standards I hold for myself. I am only setting myself up for disappointment because those people are not me so I should not expect them to act as I would. (Thanks Mr. J and Andie)
5. Words don’t hold any worth. Paper thin! That and $2.25 will get you a ride on the subway or bus. But actions will tell you what a person really feels about you. (Thanks Mr. Confused, Mr. 10 Kids, Mr. I'm-Too-Busy and Mr. I-Have-A-Girlfriend-But-We’re-Not-Exclusive). SMDH
6. A little makeup, a pretty dress and some heels can go a long way in making you feel like a new woman. Now if I can just figure out about this primer business and prevent wrinkles from ever surfacing, I’ll be good, lol. Help, Rosie!
7. It’s okay to fail. As long as you don’t let it stop you from getting back up and starting over. Just learn from the failure and keep it moving. Life is not perfect but sometimes things don’t go your way for a reason. It actually is a blessing. (Thanks Trina!)
8. I’m not going to get the things I want when I want them. I will get the things I need when I am ready for them. Have to trust God’s timing and have faith that he knows what’s best for me. (Thanks Jae and Lorraine!)
9. Love me as I am today. Not minus 25 pounds from now. Rock the body I have now and be as fabulous as I can be. Don’t be afraid to show certain parts of my body. Just because you’re covering up does not mean it suddenly makes you appear 100 pounds thinner. I’m a fat girl and I love all my lumps and bumps. Now where’s that 1-shoulder dress I want?
10. Don't put off changes to be made until New Year's. The time is now. Tomorrow is not guaranteed so let's get started!
Me Thinks 2011 is going to be a great year! I feel good things coming my way. : )
2. Make a decision and stick by it. (Thanks Lorraine)
3. Don’t rush into a relationship…get to know a person before you commit to them. (Thanks Mr. 10 kids!) That goes for friendships too! Sometimes someone can seem really cool but turn out to be a “single white female” case. SMH. Be careful of who you let into your inner circle. There are only so many chairs at the roundtable.
4. Stop holding others to the same high standards I hold for myself. I am only setting myself up for disappointment because those people are not me so I should not expect them to act as I would. (Thanks Mr. J and Andie)
5. Words don’t hold any worth. Paper thin! That and $2.25 will get you a ride on the subway or bus. But actions will tell you what a person really feels about you. (Thanks Mr. Confused, Mr. 10 Kids, Mr. I'm-Too-Busy and Mr. I-Have-A-Girlfriend-But-We’re-Not-Exclusive). SMDH
6. A little makeup, a pretty dress and some heels can go a long way in making you feel like a new woman. Now if I can just figure out about this primer business and prevent wrinkles from ever surfacing, I’ll be good, lol. Help, Rosie!
7. It’s okay to fail. As long as you don’t let it stop you from getting back up and starting over. Just learn from the failure and keep it moving. Life is not perfect but sometimes things don’t go your way for a reason. It actually is a blessing. (Thanks Trina!)
8. I’m not going to get the things I want when I want them. I will get the things I need when I am ready for them. Have to trust God’s timing and have faith that he knows what’s best for me. (Thanks Jae and Lorraine!)
9. Love me as I am today. Not minus 25 pounds from now. Rock the body I have now and be as fabulous as I can be. Don’t be afraid to show certain parts of my body. Just because you’re covering up does not mean it suddenly makes you appear 100 pounds thinner. I’m a fat girl and I love all my lumps and bumps. Now where’s that 1-shoulder dress I want?
10. Don't put off changes to be made until New Year's. The time is now. Tomorrow is not guaranteed so let's get started!
Me Thinks 2011 is going to be a great year! I feel good things coming my way. : )
Sorry I have not blogged in over a week. So far, this month has been one, full of ups and downs. I’m on Facebook pretty much daily and to me, FB has been an escape of sorts. Because I can interact with great people and post funny tidbits of my life. I don’t have to talk about the negative stuff all the time, which is a welcome breath of fresh air. So what I am about to write are some things I have not really talked about at length on there but something is telling me to share. I can’t explain it so just bear with me as the words flow.
My mom and I have been struggling to get money together to make Christmas a good one for the family. I still haven’t found a job. However, Mom and I are a great team when it comes to putting our “pennies” together and making things happen. I do have to say that my mom is really holding it down for me and that makes me want to find a job even more because I want to financially take care of her now. She’s been taking care of me for 40 years. It’s my turn. She needs to be on vacation for the rest of her life, seriously.
Special thanks to my friends who have rallied together and helped where they could. Between care packages, money, late night phone calls, and lots of love, I feel very blessed. To know that I have friends who are my family means the world to me. I can only hope that one day I can give back to them what they give me on a daily basis.
This month has been tough for 2 special people in my life…a dear friend of mine lost his dad the day after Thanksgiving and another dear friend of mine just lost his mom a week ago. Then I found out that someone who I loved dearly passed away last night. To me, she was “Grandma”. Her death wasn’t sudden. But honestly, you are never truly prepared to lose a loved one, even if you know ahead of time that they don’t have much time left. Also, to lose a loved one so close to Christmas is heartbreaking. So to those two friends, know that I love you both and am always praying for you and your families that you have strength and peace during this hard time. As for me, Grandma’s service and funeral will be on Monday. And that’s all I am going to type before the tears start flowing onto my keyboard. It really hurts. She was an amazing woman and I will miss talking to her and hearing her laugh more than anything.
Then I am missing my best friend B so much. He is going through some things right now and I wish I could be there with him. But he's in Denver and I'm in New York. We lived together for 5 years and we always celebrated Christmas together during that time. So when this time of the year comes around, I miss him even more. I just hope everyday that he is okay.
Now this may all seem gloomy and perhaps, negative. But as always, I look at the positive of things. And this is what I am taking from all of this...
Life is short. Very short. We don’t know if we have another day to live or another 20. We spend too much time worrying about tomorrow, a year from now, 10 years from now. And in that state of mind, we end up taking the present for granted, always thinking we have more time to do this and tomorrow to do that when in actuality, that time is not guaranteed. Life is not always easy. But you get 1 life and YOU decide how that life will unfold on a day by day basis. YOU make the choice to get up in the morning and as your day progresses, YOU decide what to do next. Those decisions will take you on your path in life. We all make mistakes but if you keep an open mind, pure heart and good intentions, you’ll be okay.
Make this life the best one you can. Don’t wait until the absolute last minute to have a bucket list or as I call it, a life’s to-do list. For example, for years, I had always said I wanted to eat at the restaurant “Windows on The World” at the top of the World Trade Center. I kept putting it off. Then 9/11 happened. And that restaurant is gone. The World Trade Center is gone. Now I’m not making light of the tragedy that day because we all lost more than a restaurant. It still pains me to this day and I think I have been downtown in that area twice in the last 9 years because my heart is still heavy over it. But what I am trying to say is I put that desire off thinking that, that place would always be there and now it’s not. You just never know. So you have to live in the moment and just do it.
Never settle for anything less than what you want. This goes for relationships, jobs, anything. Don’t get so comfortable that you will settle and stay where you are. Being comfortable usually means fear of the unknown...you want to stay in your comfort zone where you already know what to expect. Fear limits you. Take a chance. Be open to the possibilities out there. You could miss out on something great if you have your attention too focused on something that does not make you 100% happy.
My advice to myself today and onward, which I gladly share with the world: Marcy, don’t limit yourself in your life. Don’t let fear stop you from realizing your full potential. Don’t second guess yourself. Make a decision and run with it (as my girl Lorraine always tells me). Keep pushing through. Don’t question God’s actions. Have faith.
And as my mom has said to me many times when she sees me sitting in the dark, hand over my head and tears in my eyes when it gets overwhelming...”We’ll be alright. As long as we have each other, we’ll be alright. We have food in the fridge, a roof over our heads and we have each other. We’re good.” I lean on those words daily.
So I am counting my blessings. I might not have a lot of money or a job. I might not have a significant other or children. I might not be able to get on the next flight to Australia as I would like to, lol. But I have a loving family, which includes an amazingly strong mother, a wise, caring father, a loving stepmother, a protective brother, three beautiful nieces, and a tight circle of friends who have seen me through my darkest moments and have been there for me with an unconditional love. That in itself makes me a very rich person. Who needs a Gucci bag when I have friends who will make me laugh so hard, I flatline repeatedly? LOL...
Thank you Lord for all your blessings…now can Christmas hurry up and get here? My mom is driving me insane with what we have to cook, wrapping gifts and dragging me all around shopping and whatnot. I’m exhausted! Being the only daughter AND being the oldest is not easy, lol.
And lastly, don’t wait until New Year’s to make a change. The moment is now. So what are you going to do with it?
My mom and I have been struggling to get money together to make Christmas a good one for the family. I still haven’t found a job. However, Mom and I are a great team when it comes to putting our “pennies” together and making things happen. I do have to say that my mom is really holding it down for me and that makes me want to find a job even more because I want to financially take care of her now. She’s been taking care of me for 40 years. It’s my turn. She needs to be on vacation for the rest of her life, seriously.
Special thanks to my friends who have rallied together and helped where they could. Between care packages, money, late night phone calls, and lots of love, I feel very blessed. To know that I have friends who are my family means the world to me. I can only hope that one day I can give back to them what they give me on a daily basis.
This month has been tough for 2 special people in my life…a dear friend of mine lost his dad the day after Thanksgiving and another dear friend of mine just lost his mom a week ago. Then I found out that someone who I loved dearly passed away last night. To me, she was “Grandma”. Her death wasn’t sudden. But honestly, you are never truly prepared to lose a loved one, even if you know ahead of time that they don’t have much time left. Also, to lose a loved one so close to Christmas is heartbreaking. So to those two friends, know that I love you both and am always praying for you and your families that you have strength and peace during this hard time. As for me, Grandma’s service and funeral will be on Monday. And that’s all I am going to type before the tears start flowing onto my keyboard. It really hurts. She was an amazing woman and I will miss talking to her and hearing her laugh more than anything.
Then I am missing my best friend B so much. He is going through some things right now and I wish I could be there with him. But he's in Denver and I'm in New York. We lived together for 5 years and we always celebrated Christmas together during that time. So when this time of the year comes around, I miss him even more. I just hope everyday that he is okay.
Now this may all seem gloomy and perhaps, negative. But as always, I look at the positive of things. And this is what I am taking from all of this...
Life is short. Very short. We don’t know if we have another day to live or another 20. We spend too much time worrying about tomorrow, a year from now, 10 years from now. And in that state of mind, we end up taking the present for granted, always thinking we have more time to do this and tomorrow to do that when in actuality, that time is not guaranteed. Life is not always easy. But you get 1 life and YOU decide how that life will unfold on a day by day basis. YOU make the choice to get up in the morning and as your day progresses, YOU decide what to do next. Those decisions will take you on your path in life. We all make mistakes but if you keep an open mind, pure heart and good intentions, you’ll be okay.
Make this life the best one you can. Don’t wait until the absolute last minute to have a bucket list or as I call it, a life’s to-do list. For example, for years, I had always said I wanted to eat at the restaurant “Windows on The World” at the top of the World Trade Center. I kept putting it off. Then 9/11 happened. And that restaurant is gone. The World Trade Center is gone. Now I’m not making light of the tragedy that day because we all lost more than a restaurant. It still pains me to this day and I think I have been downtown in that area twice in the last 9 years because my heart is still heavy over it. But what I am trying to say is I put that desire off thinking that, that place would always be there and now it’s not. You just never know. So you have to live in the moment and just do it.
Never settle for anything less than what you want. This goes for relationships, jobs, anything. Don’t get so comfortable that you will settle and stay where you are. Being comfortable usually means fear of the unknown...you want to stay in your comfort zone where you already know what to expect. Fear limits you. Take a chance. Be open to the possibilities out there. You could miss out on something great if you have your attention too focused on something that does not make you 100% happy.
My advice to myself today and onward, which I gladly share with the world: Marcy, don’t limit yourself in your life. Don’t let fear stop you from realizing your full potential. Don’t second guess yourself. Make a decision and run with it (as my girl Lorraine always tells me). Keep pushing through. Don’t question God’s actions. Have faith.
And as my mom has said to me many times when she sees me sitting in the dark, hand over my head and tears in my eyes when it gets overwhelming...”We’ll be alright. As long as we have each other, we’ll be alright. We have food in the fridge, a roof over our heads and we have each other. We’re good.” I lean on those words daily.
So I am counting my blessings. I might not have a lot of money or a job. I might not have a significant other or children. I might not be able to get on the next flight to Australia as I would like to, lol. But I have a loving family, which includes an amazingly strong mother, a wise, caring father, a loving stepmother, a protective brother, three beautiful nieces, and a tight circle of friends who have seen me through my darkest moments and have been there for me with an unconditional love. That in itself makes me a very rich person. Who needs a Gucci bag when I have friends who will make me laugh so hard, I flatline repeatedly? LOL...
Thank you Lord for all your blessings…now can Christmas hurry up and get here? My mom is driving me insane with what we have to cook, wrapping gifts and dragging me all around shopping and whatnot. I’m exhausted! Being the only daughter AND being the oldest is not easy, lol.
And lastly, don’t wait until New Year’s to make a change. The moment is now. So what are you going to do with it?
So with Christmas and New Year's coming up, I want to look fabulous so I have been stalking some dresses online. I guess I am praying for a Miracle on 34th Street that the dresses will go on sale. Yeah, I know I am reaching. Anyway, here's my Dress Hot List:
Belle of the Ball dress from Igigi
Draped One Shoulder Dress from Avenue
Signature Lacey Dress from Sealed With A Kissed Designs
Honestly, I will probably end up with the Avenue dress since I always have Avenue coupons and it's the cheapest one of the bunch. But my #1 pick is the Igigi dress. Igigi has some great dresses and their customer service is top notch. I always said when I hit the lottery, I am buying everything on their site, lol. Yes, it is that serious.
Ladies, which dress would you wear? Gentleman, which dress do you like the best?
Belle of the Ball dress from Igigi
Draped One Shoulder Dress from Avenue
Signature Lacey Dress from Sealed With A Kissed Designs
Honestly, I will probably end up with the Avenue dress since I always have Avenue coupons and it's the cheapest one of the bunch. But my #1 pick is the Igigi dress. Igigi has some great dresses and their customer service is top notch. I always said when I hit the lottery, I am buying everything on their site, lol. Yes, it is that serious.
Ladies, which dress would you wear? Gentleman, which dress do you like the best?
We are all on this Earth, in this existence, to tell a story. Whatever your story is, part of your purpose in this life is to share your story. You may think your story is boring or that you won't ever inspire someone but honestly, that is not the case. Just by living, you are inspiring someone. Just by offering a kind word or gesture, you are inspiring someone. You never know. I always say that if I can just inspire one person in my lifetime, it will all be worth it. So with that in mind, here's my story...
I've been a big girl my whole life. The only time I was thin was when I was born, lol! So I don't know what it is to be thin. And I am okay with that. Some thin people look at me with a sad face when I say that but honestly, you have to own who you are and not let those sad faces affect you. Someone will always have something to say and you can't make everyone happy. So your goal first and foremost should be making yourself happy and let those other folks worry about their own happiness.
It took me years to really be comfortable in my skin. I always had confidence to a certain extent. But I also had a love/hate relationship with my body. I always heard that I'm such a pretty girl but if I just lost some weight, I would be beautiful. It took me years to shake that from my mind. People don't understand the impact words can have on someone.
I have done a lot in my life. I have met people that have blessed me with jobs, opportunities and etc. I'd like to think it was due to my nice personality and just being open to what is out there. However, my life was at a standstill a few years ago.
I was working full-time for a well known plus size catalog retailer (who shall remain nameless) and while I loved my job and the people I worked with, I felt like my job had become my life. I was stressed out, not happy and not really taking care of myself. In the back of my mind, I would hear a voice telling me to look for another job or try another opportunity but I got comfortable at my job so I ignored the voice.
Well, after being at this company for 7 years and working on my third brand (as well as being newly promoted to online merchandising manager), I got laid off. I was stunned. But honestly, I walked away relieved. Weird, huh? I have no hard feelings. I mean, it's the recession. It happens.
So I decided to take a year off. I traveled. I went back to school for some continuing education courses. I started crocheting again. I slept, lol. I started to try to find myself and decide what I wanted to do with my life. I have always been a writer but never really thought of it as something that I should focus on. After the first year was done, I had realized that I wanted to write and I also wanted to inspire people, particularly my big sisters out there.
The state of the world is crazy right now with so much emphasis on size and the impact that it's having on women everywhere. I read all the time about some model or actress having an eating disorder. There were so many stereotypes regarding fat people that drove me crazy because that's not me. I'm fat, yes. But I like to dress nice. I don't smell. I don't spend all of my time on the couch with a bag of chips in one hand and a gallon of ice cream in the other. I have traveled all over the world, most of the time by myself. I have no problem getting a man. Lastly, I get around just fine and have never broken a chair by sitting on it. Anyway...
So I spent the second year looking for a job because in the end, writing was not going to pay the bills. And I also traveled some more, lol. I have not found a job yet but I am happier and I feel better. I am eating better, sleeping better and the experiences I have had in the last 2 years were amazing. I wouldn't trade it for the world. I realized that the possibilities in life are endless if you believe. I think I have something to offer the world through my writing. That alone brings me pure happiness.
I'm still looking for a job (aside from some freelance gigs here and there), would love to go back to the ecommerce field since that is where my strengths lie. But the job market sucks. My unemployment benefits ended a month and a half ago. I'm officially what they refer to as a "99er", which means I exhausted all 99 weeks of my benefits. But I am not stressing over it. It'll work out. Whether I find a job in my field or change careers. The possibilities are endless.
Which brings me to this blog...I'm going to share my story as it continues and just hope that it inspires you. Fear holds us back from so much. We need to live life a little more fearlessly and dare to be who we are. You might end up opening a door to something fabulous and amazing. You might change your life for the better without realizing it. Life is all about opening and closing doors...learning the lesson...and being you regardless, just evolving as you grow and learn.
So that is my story...what's yours?
I've been a big girl my whole life. The only time I was thin was when I was born, lol! So I don't know what it is to be thin. And I am okay with that. Some thin people look at me with a sad face when I say that but honestly, you have to own who you are and not let those sad faces affect you. Someone will always have something to say and you can't make everyone happy. So your goal first and foremost should be making yourself happy and let those other folks worry about their own happiness.
It took me years to really be comfortable in my skin. I always had confidence to a certain extent. But I also had a love/hate relationship with my body. I always heard that I'm such a pretty girl but if I just lost some weight, I would be beautiful. It took me years to shake that from my mind. People don't understand the impact words can have on someone.
I have done a lot in my life. I have met people that have blessed me with jobs, opportunities and etc. I'd like to think it was due to my nice personality and just being open to what is out there. However, my life was at a standstill a few years ago.
I was working full-time for a well known plus size catalog retailer (who shall remain nameless) and while I loved my job and the people I worked with, I felt like my job had become my life. I was stressed out, not happy and not really taking care of myself. In the back of my mind, I would hear a voice telling me to look for another job or try another opportunity but I got comfortable at my job so I ignored the voice.
Well, after being at this company for 7 years and working on my third brand (as well as being newly promoted to online merchandising manager), I got laid off. I was stunned. But honestly, I walked away relieved. Weird, huh? I have no hard feelings. I mean, it's the recession. It happens.
So I decided to take a year off. I traveled. I went back to school for some continuing education courses. I started crocheting again. I slept, lol. I started to try to find myself and decide what I wanted to do with my life. I have always been a writer but never really thought of it as something that I should focus on. After the first year was done, I had realized that I wanted to write and I also wanted to inspire people, particularly my big sisters out there.
The state of the world is crazy right now with so much emphasis on size and the impact that it's having on women everywhere. I read all the time about some model or actress having an eating disorder. There were so many stereotypes regarding fat people that drove me crazy because that's not me. I'm fat, yes. But I like to dress nice. I don't smell. I don't spend all of my time on the couch with a bag of chips in one hand and a gallon of ice cream in the other. I have traveled all over the world, most of the time by myself. I have no problem getting a man. Lastly, I get around just fine and have never broken a chair by sitting on it. Anyway...
So I spent the second year looking for a job because in the end, writing was not going to pay the bills. And I also traveled some more, lol. I have not found a job yet but I am happier and I feel better. I am eating better, sleeping better and the experiences I have had in the last 2 years were amazing. I wouldn't trade it for the world. I realized that the possibilities in life are endless if you believe. I think I have something to offer the world through my writing. That alone brings me pure happiness.
I'm still looking for a job (aside from some freelance gigs here and there), would love to go back to the ecommerce field since that is where my strengths lie. But the job market sucks. My unemployment benefits ended a month and a half ago. I'm officially what they refer to as a "99er", which means I exhausted all 99 weeks of my benefits. But I am not stressing over it. It'll work out. Whether I find a job in my field or change careers. The possibilities are endless.
Which brings me to this blog...I'm going to share my story as it continues and just hope that it inspires you. Fear holds us back from so much. We need to live life a little more fearlessly and dare to be who we are. You might end up opening a door to something fabulous and amazing. You might change your life for the better without realizing it. Life is all about opening and closing doors...learning the lesson...and being you regardless, just evolving as you grow and learn.
So that is my story...what's yours?
I was lucky enough to win VIP tickets to FFF Week(end) in Los Angeles, CA on October 28 - 30, 2010, courtesy of Stiletto Siren and Sonsi. I'll talk about my great time at FFF Week(end) in another post.
I decided to wear a dress from Eliza Parker to the Runway Finale event. Eliza Parker is this great new plus size clothing collection by designer Jessica Tenaglia that runs up to size 26/28. I had the pleasure of meeting Jessica at an Eliza Parker NYC event back in June and was so impressed at her knowledge of the plus size body and her desire to create a collection that will properly fit and celebrate a woman's curves. She really pays attention to fabric, fit and color. I instantly fell in love with the Santorini dress in Midnight Blue.
I had to have it. I usually wear black dresses but wanted to change it up a bit and wear some color. The length was perfect for me as I prefer to wear long dresses to formal events. I thought the blue would look beautiful against my pale skin. Plus, the style of the dress would flatter me in the right places. I have an hourglass shape, a tummy, and wide hips (not to mention a big booty, thanks to my Latina heritage, lol).
The dress did not disappoint. The fabric is stretchy, draped well, and is not clingy at all. It flows so well as I walk. The dress has a great black liner underneath, which I found to be an awesome bonus. The fabric does not feel cheap at all. The dress is a little heavy in weight, which for me I love because I can wear it all year round. The day I wore it, the weather was around 80 degrees and I was not hot at all despite the weight of the fabric. I wore it with a short sleeve shrug from Curvy Girl Clothing. However, I think I can also wear it in the winter, paired with a long sleeve jacket or shrug and not be cold. This is a very versatile dress. Not to mention, it was so comfy because of the soft fabric (Poly/Rayon/Spandex)! Are formal dresses supposed to be comfy? I have no idea but I am in love with this dress.
The empire waist is so flattering! It takes the attention from my tummy and emphasizes my waist. I love how the top part of the dress has wide straps, which resemble a halter type wrap style. I usually hate to wear sleeveless tops or dresses but I would wear this dress without a jacket or shrug. I feel so beautiful in it. I felt an urge to twirl and spin when I put it on the first time, lol. Love it!
I have become such a big fan of Eliza Parker. I now have my eye on the Savannah dress in plum and the Monaco dress, which is this beautiful black and white dress that I saw Madeline Figueroa Jones from Plus Model Magazine wearing at one of the FFF Week(end) events.
So, to my fellow plus size fashionista sisters out there, definitely check out Eliza Parker! You will not be disappointed. They currently have a promotion going through Dec 8, where you can take an additional 15% off your order. Use code LIGHTS15 at checkout.
Here's some more pics of me rocking my fabulous blue EP dress:
Me with the beautiful Rosie Mercado, Face of FFF Week (she's wearing Igigi)
Me with the face of Eliza Parker, the gorgeous Fluvia Lacerda, plus size model
Me with the wonderful Madeline Figueroa Jones from Plus Model Magazine
Shop my look:
Santorini Dress in Midnight Blue from Eliza Parker
Matching Shrug from Eliza Parker (my shrug is no longer available at Curvy Girl Clothing but this shrug is just as fabulous)
Black Chiffon Lace Flower Hair Clip from Torrid
Avery Clutch in black from Payless
Black Peeptoe Courts from Evans UK
I decided to wear a dress from Eliza Parker to the Runway Finale event. Eliza Parker is this great new plus size clothing collection by designer Jessica Tenaglia that runs up to size 26/28. I had the pleasure of meeting Jessica at an Eliza Parker NYC event back in June and was so impressed at her knowledge of the plus size body and her desire to create a collection that will properly fit and celebrate a woman's curves. She really pays attention to fabric, fit and color. I instantly fell in love with the Santorini dress in Midnight Blue.
I had to have it. I usually wear black dresses but wanted to change it up a bit and wear some color. The length was perfect for me as I prefer to wear long dresses to formal events. I thought the blue would look beautiful against my pale skin. Plus, the style of the dress would flatter me in the right places. I have an hourglass shape, a tummy, and wide hips (not to mention a big booty, thanks to my Latina heritage, lol).
The dress did not disappoint. The fabric is stretchy, draped well, and is not clingy at all. It flows so well as I walk. The dress has a great black liner underneath, which I found to be an awesome bonus. The fabric does not feel cheap at all. The dress is a little heavy in weight, which for me I love because I can wear it all year round. The day I wore it, the weather was around 80 degrees and I was not hot at all despite the weight of the fabric. I wore it with a short sleeve shrug from Curvy Girl Clothing. However, I think I can also wear it in the winter, paired with a long sleeve jacket or shrug and not be cold. This is a very versatile dress. Not to mention, it was so comfy because of the soft fabric (Poly/Rayon/Spandex)! Are formal dresses supposed to be comfy? I have no idea but I am in love with this dress.
The empire waist is so flattering! It takes the attention from my tummy and emphasizes my waist. I love how the top part of the dress has wide straps, which resemble a halter type wrap style. I usually hate to wear sleeveless tops or dresses but I would wear this dress without a jacket or shrug. I feel so beautiful in it. I felt an urge to twirl and spin when I put it on the first time, lol. Love it!
I have become such a big fan of Eliza Parker. I now have my eye on the Savannah dress in plum and the Monaco dress, which is this beautiful black and white dress that I saw Madeline Figueroa Jones from Plus Model Magazine wearing at one of the FFF Week(end) events.
So, to my fellow plus size fashionista sisters out there, definitely check out Eliza Parker! You will not be disappointed. They currently have a promotion going through Dec 8, where you can take an additional 15% off your order. Use code LIGHTS15 at checkout.
Here's some more pics of me rocking my fabulous blue EP dress:
Me with the beautiful Rosie Mercado, Face of FFF Week (she's wearing Igigi)
Me with the face of Eliza Parker, the gorgeous Fluvia Lacerda, plus size model
Me with the wonderful Madeline Figueroa Jones from Plus Model Magazine
Shop my look:
Santorini Dress in Midnight Blue from Eliza Parker
Matching Shrug from Eliza Parker (my shrug is no longer available at Curvy Girl Clothing but this shrug is just as fabulous)
Black Chiffon Lace Flower Hair Clip from Torrid
Avery Clutch in black from Payless
Black Peeptoe Courts from Evans UK
Inspiration is not something you just wait for. Just be you and the inspiration will flow...it may come from the most unexpected places but it will come. - Mastin Kipp, The Daily Love
I’m not a Beyonce fan at all. But as I walked thru a shoe store looking for a pair of boots a few months ago, I was miserable. Near tears. Thinking of him. I took a deep breath and tried to hold back the tears. Then it happened. Beyonce’s Irreplaceable came on overhead in the store. And once I heard “To the left, to the left”, I couldn’t help but laugh. Thank goodness for God and the universe. Always there to help you when needed. I sat there, trying on boots and laughing as I listened to the lyrics.
Now I have that song on my MP3 player and listen to it all the time. It makes me feel empowered. It also reminds me that he is not irreplaceable. I can and will find someone better. Maybe I already have. You never know. That’s the beauty of life and its surprises.
Now I wasn’t crying because I missed him or want him back. Hell no. But it still hurts because of what he did. Sometimes it’s hard to let go but you have to. So hearing this song made me realize that he really is not worth any of my time and I just need to let go. He lied. He cheated. Can’t change the past but I can control my present.
It hurts like crazy when a relationship ends, especially if it ends on a bad note. We think the pain is unbearable but in reality, it is. It makes us stronger and is a blessing in disguise. Sometimes we have to go through the bad to get to the good. Yeah, yeah, I know. It’s hard to be patient. We ask “Why?” and we want love NOW. We don’t want to wait. We don’t want to kiss a bunch of frogs before getting to our Prince Charming/Cinderella. But even though you THINK you’re ready, God and the Universe know better. You have to trust in that. Faith is everything.
I recently met someone great. He tells me he’s never been in love. Can you imagine that? Living your whole life and not ever being in love. Well, I actually think it’s a blessing for him because when he does find love, it’s going to be that great love. That is the journey God put him on. When he does find love, he will appreciate it so much to the point where he will make sure he will do everything he can to keep it and not take it for granted. He will be ready and he will get knocked off his feet.
I admire him so because it takes a certain level of maturity to say out loud that you have never been in love. Too often, people use those three little words quickly without realizing the intent and meaning behind them. We meet someone who we have an instant connection with and are in lust with so we think we are in love. But honestly, if you were in love, it would be more than a connection or physical connection. Love is looking at the person as they are and being happy with them as is. Love is being at someone’s side no matter what. Love is being considerate of each other. Love is something that should be treasured and not just insinuated or mistaken for lust.
This someone great has made me think of love and its importance. And I wish more people were like him. If we weren’t so quick to claim love with someone, we’d save ourselves a whole world of heartache. It’s like I said in my last note, we have to take our time and build. Love is life lasting so it takes time to grow.
This brings me back to the patience factor. Many of us are so impatient and that just wrecks our faith in waiting and trusting in God’s time.
The best advice a friend ever gave me was to stop looking for love and let love find you. And she can back that up with her own experience. She stopped looking in her mid-30’s. She was done. She had not had the greatest luck in love. And when she least expected it, she met the man who would become her husband. She wasn’t looking and even as he pursued her, she was still resistant to the idea of love. He hung in there because he knew he had found love. Now they are married with two beautiful children.
Sometimes we don’t know that what we need is right in front of us because we’re too busy either focusing on the wrong person or being closed off to the possibilities to see what is in front of us. But the Universe/God knows what we need. We may think we know but really that is our desires talking, In the end, what you want is not necessarily what you need.
So have a little faith…trust in a higher power’s timing and be happy NOW. Right this moment. You don’t need someone else to fulfill you and make you happy. You can do that all on your own. And when you least expect it, Mr or Ms Right will appear and knock you off your feet (as Ms Keri HIlson sings in one of my fave songs).
Now I have that song on my MP3 player and listen to it all the time. It makes me feel empowered. It also reminds me that he is not irreplaceable. I can and will find someone better. Maybe I already have. You never know. That’s the beauty of life and its surprises.
Now I wasn’t crying because I missed him or want him back. Hell no. But it still hurts because of what he did. Sometimes it’s hard to let go but you have to. So hearing this song made me realize that he really is not worth any of my time and I just need to let go. He lied. He cheated. Can’t change the past but I can control my present.
It hurts like crazy when a relationship ends, especially if it ends on a bad note. We think the pain is unbearable but in reality, it is. It makes us stronger and is a blessing in disguise. Sometimes we have to go through the bad to get to the good. Yeah, yeah, I know. It’s hard to be patient. We ask “Why?” and we want love NOW. We don’t want to wait. We don’t want to kiss a bunch of frogs before getting to our Prince Charming/Cinderella. But even though you THINK you’re ready, God and the Universe know better. You have to trust in that. Faith is everything.
I recently met someone great. He tells me he’s never been in love. Can you imagine that? Living your whole life and not ever being in love. Well, I actually think it’s a blessing for him because when he does find love, it’s going to be that great love. That is the journey God put him on. When he does find love, he will appreciate it so much to the point where he will make sure he will do everything he can to keep it and not take it for granted. He will be ready and he will get knocked off his feet.
I admire him so because it takes a certain level of maturity to say out loud that you have never been in love. Too often, people use those three little words quickly without realizing the intent and meaning behind them. We meet someone who we have an instant connection with and are in lust with so we think we are in love. But honestly, if you were in love, it would be more than a connection or physical connection. Love is looking at the person as they are and being happy with them as is. Love is being at someone’s side no matter what. Love is being considerate of each other. Love is something that should be treasured and not just insinuated or mistaken for lust.
This someone great has made me think of love and its importance. And I wish more people were like him. If we weren’t so quick to claim love with someone, we’d save ourselves a whole world of heartache. It’s like I said in my last note, we have to take our time and build. Love is life lasting so it takes time to grow.
This brings me back to the patience factor. Many of us are so impatient and that just wrecks our faith in waiting and trusting in God’s time.
The best advice a friend ever gave me was to stop looking for love and let love find you. And she can back that up with her own experience. She stopped looking in her mid-30’s. She was done. She had not had the greatest luck in love. And when she least expected it, she met the man who would become her husband. She wasn’t looking and even as he pursued her, she was still resistant to the idea of love. He hung in there because he knew he had found love. Now they are married with two beautiful children.
Sometimes we don’t know that what we need is right in front of us because we’re too busy either focusing on the wrong person or being closed off to the possibilities to see what is in front of us. But the Universe/God knows what we need. We may think we know but really that is our desires talking, In the end, what you want is not necessarily what you need.
So have a little faith…trust in a higher power’s timing and be happy NOW. Right this moment. You don’t need someone else to fulfill you and make you happy. You can do that all on your own. And when you least expect it, Mr or Ms Right will appear and knock you off your feet (as Ms Keri HIlson sings in one of my fave songs).
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