My love affair with myself continues...

Thursday, November 12, 2015

"It sounds like a cliche but I also learnt that you're not going to fall for the right person until you really love yourself and feel good about how you are." ~ Emma Watson

I have made no secret of my constant work on myself and it has not just been about my grief. I've always been confident but loving myself fully has always been hard. I tend to be very critical and I realized that I became my own worst critic. 

When you're critical of yourself, you are not fully accepting and loving all of you. You are only loving parts of you. And that will not keep your confidence consistent. When your confidence is not 100% or consistent, it affects you in so many areas in your life, even your love life. 

It's all about acceptance. Accepting who you are now but knowing that if you don't like something about yourself or your life, you can change it. When you accept yourself, flaws and all, and accept that no one is perfect but you are still amazing, imperfections and all, it's like a light bulb goes off above your head and your heart bursts with more love.

Because when you're critical of yourself and not fully happy, you project that onto others. But when you accept who you are and focus on the amazing things about yourself, that love for yourself will grow. It's a daily process and not easy but so worth the work. Change your mindset, change your life.

Just remind yourself daily... no one is perfect and will ever be perfect. Someone may seem perfect but you never know the backstory of their life.

I'm still single and for the first time in my life, I don't feel lonely. I feel empowered. Why? Because I am choosing to be single until I meet someone that I truly want to be with. And not just being with any man that comes along because I don't want to be alone. I'm telling you, once your confidence is on point, you will never settle for anything in life. And you will be so happy and determined to chase your dreams. At the age of 45, this is where I am and it feels so good. I don't feel alone. I feel like I'm waiting on someone wonderful to come into my life. And while I wait, I'll continue to be the best ME I can be.

So with that said, my confidence ties in with my style. I am daring to show my legs more and get my sexy on, in a classy way. You can be sexy with clothes on. It's all in your attitude.

This red leopard dress from Lane Bryant spoke to me. You know what it said? "Girl, you better wear me because I am meant to be rocked by you... you know you're fabulous and beautiful and I would look so good on you." LOL!

So wear it I did...

I paired the dress with red flats (also from Lane Bryant) and a moto jacket clutch from Pinup Girl Clothing, which is one of my fave purses at the moment. It doubles as a crossbody purse and is so me.

Honestly, this dress makes me feel pretty, happy and just amazing. The fabric is stretchy but it fits well. I love the draping on the sides of the skirt part as well as the silver bar cinching at the waist. The 3/4 sleeves are so nice and the knee length took some getting used to but life is too short to be afraid to show some leg. 

My life goals now are simple... be inspired, stay focused, be empowered and love yourself fiercely. I am having this great love affair with myself and I don't want it to end ever.

You can shop my look with the below links:

Animal Print Dress with Hardware from Lane Bryant - click here

Faux Suede Ballet Flat from Lane Bryant - click here

Moto Jacket Clutch from Pinup Girl Clothing - click here

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