Learning to Celebrate both NEW and Old Thanksgiving Traditions

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

"Isn't it peculiar, Charlie Brown, how some traditions just slowly fade away?" - Lucy Van Pelt

When life throws you curveballs, you have to learn to roll with the punches, which is not always easy. I know this firsthand.

After losing half of my immediate family in a span of three years, the holidays became a time of sadness for me. I could not even think of getting out of bed, let alone celebrating family holiday traditions.

But in time, as I allowed myself to start healing and not be defined by my grief, I learned that it's okay to celebrate new traditions while still honoring the old ones. 

My mom doesn't cook anymore at home since it is just she and I. We go to my aunt Maria's house where there's salsa music blasting, lots of chatter and cooking in the kitchen and lots of laughter. My nieces celebrate the holiday with their mom, where they now have their own traditions.

One of my favorite traditions around the holidays is drinking coquito, which is the Puerto Rican version of spiked egg nog. 

And I have to admit, I also have my laptop in front of me, as I drink, trying to get in on some pre-Black Friday Thanksgiving online sales. Last year, I bought a new winter coat for $25 and scored some major deals for Christmas. Sometimes I don't sleep for 24 hours on Cyber Monday. Shopping on a budget is that serious to me, especially with three girls to buy gifts for.

While I am shopping online, my mom will sneak me some pasteles to eat while I wait for dinner to be done. Bless her heart. Man, I live for some pasteles, which we usually don't indulge in until the holidays. They're like tamales but the masa is made of plantains and yautía with chunks of pork in them. Yum.

My uncle is usually sitting in his recliner in the living room, some egg nog in his cup, watching soccer aka football -- he's from St Kitts and very serious about his soccer. I laugh when I think of him and his thick West Indian accent, yelling at the TV. LOL! When the turkey and pernil are done, he then has the honor of slicing the meat up for us to eat.

Some of my aunt's friends will come by for dinner and we say grace before we eat -- I have to admit, I always add (to myself) "Miss you Dad and Danny! You are never forgotten". While the old family traditions we shared don't happen anymore, I honor them to the fullest in my own way because the memories forever remain. However, part of moving on with life is going with the flow of change and in this case, that means embracing new traditions and things. This is what my dad and brother would want me to do.

We usually end dinner with dessert (and some more coquito, LOL) and sometimes we'll play Uno. My aunt usually makes sure to have pumpkin pie, apple pie and sweet potato pie. We leave the flan for Christmas and I'm drooling as I type this because flan is my world.

Enough about food... I still have a week to go before all that deliciousness so let me not digress.

Part of my new Thanksgiving tradition is also choosing a fabulous outfit to wear and making sure I am wearing something I love that's also comprised of the three C's: Chic, Casual and Comfy. 

Fashion has become a saving grace for me because it helps boost my spirit and make me feel good. I walk with an extra pep in my step when I am wearing something I love.

I can't believe I am saying this but I am in love with plaid and velvet this year. I used to hate them so much but the styles that I have been seeing this season has made me fall in love. 

When I saw this Love & Legend by Addition Elle Babydoll Mini Dress in Plaid at Gwynnie Bee, I knew this would be perfect as a Thanksgiving look. The fabric has stretch and almost feels like a light fleece, which is great for those brisk fall to winter days. The keyhole shows some cleavage and I love the knee length. It has 3/4 sleeves with elastic cuffs. I love the little ruffle detail at the waist too.

And this Military Velvet Jacket from Drew via Gwynnie Bee is a winner! Once I put it on, I felt like this jacket gave me LIFE. It elevated the dress to chic status and made me feel so fancy. I'm actually buying this jacket so it will not be going back. It's mine!

For me, this is such an easy look that makes me feel great. And that is perfect for Thanksgiving and beyond. 

This outfit is SO chic, casual and comfy that I am tempted to venture out on Black Friday this year. My cousin and her boyfriend usually go after dinner and I am feeling daring this year. I guess fashion has that way of pushing you out of your comfort zone in other ways outside of dressing your body. It changes your attitude and fuels your confidence.

What are your favorite Thanksgiving traditions? And I would love to know what you're wearing this Thanksgiving. Comment below and let me know. Hope it's fabulous!

Fit/Size Deets...

-- I'm wearing a size 26 in the plaid dress and a size 4X in the jacket. 

-- My boots are from Lane Bryant but unfortunately, they are two years old and I have yet to see any new boots from them this year that fit a wide calf over 18". Mine measure 23" around and this was the first time I found tall boots that fit my calves comfortably.

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1 comment

  1. Beautifully said sis...that dress is killer on you. Miss ya!!!!